I didn’t always have the language for what I was surviving. I just knew I felt afraid, exhausted, and like I could never do or be enough.
For over 30 years, I was deeply embedded in a high-control religious system. I gave everything to it - my time, identity, career, and voice. I was a leader, a preacher, a mentor, and a woman trying to live up to impossible standards in the name of God.
Behind the scenes, I was slowly falling apart.
I was taught to silence my intuition, sacrifice my needs, and call it “faith.” I learned to perform for belonging, suppress my emotions, and spiritualise my suffering. When I disclosed abuse, I was met with blame, control, and the silencing tactics that high-control environments so often employ.
I lost my job. I lost my community. I lost the version of God I once trusted. But I found something else: the strength to begin again.
My recovery hasn’t been linear - it’s been raw, slow, and sacred. It’s included untangling childhood conditioning, naming trauma I didn’t realise was trauma, grieving what was lost, and rebuilding a life rooted in truth, agency, and safety.
This lived experience informs everything about how I hold space. I understand what it means to question your faith, your past, and your identity, and how lonely that can be. I also know the freedom that comes when you start listening to and trusting yourself.
Outside of work, I'm most at home on the couch with a coffee and a book, preferably under a blanket. I've rewatched Friends and Gilmore Girls more times than I care to admit, and I regret nothing. There's something comforting about returning to familiar stories where you already know how it ends.
I build Lego when I need my brain to stop spinning, and I've been getting into astrology lately. Turns out I'm a Virgo sun, Taurus moon, Aquarius rising, which apparently explains my need for order, comfort, and the occasional urge to question everything. I'm an Enneagram 6w5, which just means I'm equal parts curious and cautious, always asking questions and needing to understand how things actually work.
I think that drive to see beneath the surface is part of what drew me to this work. I value slowness, depth, and care that doesn't perform. I'm a homebody through and through, and that's where my best thinking happens. The quiet gives me space to notice patterns, sit with complexity, and show up for people without rushing them through their process. That's what I try to bring to everyone I work with.
Qualifications & Training
Master of Mental Health (completing June 2026)
Graduate Cert in Mental Health
Bachelor of Arts
Diploma of Counselling
Practitioner of Coaching (ICG Member)
Practitioner of Havening Techniques
Working with Cult Survivors (Lalich Centre)
Trauma-Informed Coach Certificate
Religious Trauma Certification/Training
What Does It Mean To Be Trauma-Informed?
Trauma doesn’t just live in the past; it lingers in the body, shapes our beliefs, and influences how safe we feel in the world.
Whether it stems from spiritual abuse, coercive control, emotional neglect, high-control environments, or other overwhelming experiences, trauma isn’t defined by the event itself but by what happens inside us when we lack the support, resources, or safety needed to process it.
When that pain goes unacknowledged or unprocessed, it can show up in daily life as chronic self-doubt, people-pleasing, emotional overwhelm, disconnection from self, or the sense that you’re “too much” or “not enough.”
That’s why a trauma-informed approach matters, especially in recovery spaces. As a Certified Coach working with religious trauma & cult recovery with specialist training in trauma-informed care, nervous system regulation, parts work, Havening Techniques®, cult recovery, religious trauma, and mental health recovery models, I hold a deep understanding of how trauma impacts every layer of a person’s wellbeing, mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and relationally.
Through a trauma-informed lens:
I prioritise safety and choice, ensuring our work together is collaborative and empowering.
I hold space with compassion and curiosity, not judgment, pressure, or prescriptive advice.
I understand how shame, fear, and silence are used as tools of control and how powerful it is to gently unlearn them.
I respect your pace and your process; there’s no rush, no “shoulds,” and no performance required.
I will always be honest if something falls outside my scope of practice and offer trusted referrals when needed.
This work isn’t about fixing you. It’s about walking with you as you reclaim your story, your voice, and your sense of self in a space that sees you as whole.
If you’ve been shaped by systems of fear or control and are ready to move toward a life that feels more grounded, authentic, and free - I’m here to support you.
